Well, that made me cry.
Maybe this is the right time for this confession: I am also attracted to women and in a long term committed relationship with a male.. I’d felt horrible about it for a long time, not knowing how to label myself and just skirting the issue if it ever came up, trying to explain the situation just seemed tedious and not many people really understood. Then one week you posted about your gender identity, your usage of the word “queer”, and a few days later I came across this comic.
It was because of you and this comic coming to me in the same week that helped abolish all the insecurities I’d feel whenever the topic of my sexuality came up. It helped me identify myself if anyone ever does ask me to proclaim myself as a label, and it made me feel like I wasn’t some sort of freak of nature. That other people just need to realize that love is love. It is blind to gender and fluid and does crazy shit. Attraction is attraction. And labels suck.
Seeing you discover this one piece of a puzzle that helped me solidify my sexual identity, and it having this emotional effect on you, is surreal. I’d just like you to know that you had a similar effect on me. So thank you.
And may the queer live on!
I am so, so glad to read this. I just finished writing an email to the creator of the comic to tell her pretty much the same thing: thank you for creating this, writing about it, because it helped me realize I’m not alone and not feel like such a freak. Reading about other people feeling the same way makes me feel better about my sexuality as well. It’s really “a thing” and it’s not just me, it sucks to feel alone in your sexual identity. I’ve been told by various members of the queer and/or homophobic community that I’m :
Faking, and/or lying.
Appropriating another’s identity for kicks.
Going through a phase with my partner, and will “come to realize” at some point in my relationship that it was all fake and I actually loathe him.
Was going through a phase when I liked women and will one day realize it was just “normal” teenage experimentation that I indulged a little bit too long.
Just needed ‘a good hard dick’ to realize I was straight.
Don’t understand sexuality and don’t know what I’m talking about.
Am too influenced by pop culture and feminazis.
Just want to feel special.
I don’t know if you, or other people who identify like we do, have encountered the same treatment… but by that woman’s comic I would assume so. It sucks to have other people tell you about your own sexuality, and act like you’re an idiot for feeling what you do.